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Burnout on the Spiritualist Path, When is it Time to Walk Away?

I’ve been developing my mediumship abilities for about 2 years, going to my development circle once a week and doing a few readings for people I know. I couldn’t get enough of it, its all I talked about, it’s all I thought about, its all I wanted to do! But after a while I started to feel a little overwhelmed by working with spirit.

Me btw. Lockdown made me give up shaving.

I’d had a strange experience seeing a well renowned platform medium David Holt, he’s an author and professional medium who does a few nights at our church every year and it’s always packed with people. He sells out fast! I invited 2 regulars from my pub, Trish and Wendy, they came in every Tuesday for a meal, a gab and to do their crossword, they got everyone involved in completing it and you could hear Trish laughing all around the pub.  We loved all the spiritual, spooky and woo stuff, and I’m known to spend hours talking to them instead of actually working on the bar to the joy of my co-workers (oops!). They go to see mediums regularly and I thought it would be nice for us all to see David together.

I sat there while David was giving his messages and I felt rather unimpressed, fidgety and waiting for it to be over, I was confused by everyone around me going “Ooh.” and “Ahh.” at the demonstration. Wendy leaned over and said “He’s very good isn’t he?” and I sat there feeling like am I seeing the same thing? Now David is very good, great actually, my mentor calls him “Mr Shit Hot.” because he is In fact shit hot, I even have his book Are You Ready to Believe? which he signed for me.

Davids Instagram which is dedicated to body building!

But I felt that Its nothing I haven’t seen before, it’s nothing new to me and I could do that too, in fact I did it every week along with everyone from my group at our development circle. As I watched the crowd look in awe and amazement I couldn’t help but feel that I was amongst the muggles.

What had been happening was the buzz, the magic and mystery had been wearing off, what was so fantastical and amazing was becoming normal to me, being a medium around muggles (and I don’t mean that disrespectfully, I just mean as in people who do not know much about spirit or are seeing spirit communication for the first time.) It can be a little jarring to remember that majority of people who come to your church have never experienced this phenomena and are still amazed and to you it’s just a daily occurrence.

I think after developing for a while and watching and working mediumship day after day, week in, week out consistently for 2 years, as with anything, gets to become mundane, tiring and dare I say boring. It’s like a new favourite song that you play on repeat over and over again then suddenly you can’t bare it at all and would rather stab yourself in the eardrum with a quartz crystal point than listen to it again.

It can all get too much sometimes, I found I didn’t want to go to church anymore, I didn’t even want to give messages. I was tired of working with spirit, I just wanted to give it up and be a muggle once again. I was sick of receiving messages as I was getting so many that I hadn’t had a chance to implement and make the changes that I was advised to make or just forgotten what I’d been told.

Sometimes you need to walk away to come back stronger, I took a break this year after lockdown because it was becoming overwhelming, tiring and stale but walking away was also heart-breaking, for me this was all I ever wanted, I felt it was my calling to do this work and be a voice for spirit felt like my destiny. When you have almost set your whole direction in life on this one thing for it to become so monotonous and exhausting it can be soul destroying.

This is where I was and still am to some extent.

David’s book Are You Ready to Believe?. I was mad that my friend Josie got more x’s than me

I was punishing myself over feeling this way. I thought that I was betraying the spirit world by taking a break so I forced myself to show up all the time for spirit because if I didn’t then it would mean I didn’t have faith in them or they wouldn’t want to work with me and there is always this fear that if I stop working with my mediumship I’ll lose it. However, you never really lose it, you may be a little rusty when you come back but you’ll soon be back up and running.

Burnout is real and needs to be honoured. Its OK to take time out and pursue other things, its ok to be a muggle again and live a normal life, that’s actually why we incarnated here in the first place.

Mediumship is beautiful and affirms that there is life after death yet while we are here we need to live a physical life, in which we need rest and recuperation, to look after our own health and well being and ultimately to live. You can’t spend your life focusing on the dead so be sure to set boundaries in your practice of mediumship otherwise it will take away what makes it so special.

If you’ve felt this way too or feel you need a break, honour that feeling, it’s your soul saying you need to refresh and revitalise your spirit. Don’t ever feel guilty for needing time out. Spirit would want you to be healthy and happy when working for them instead of being fatigued and worn out.

This feeling for me became so overwhelming that after starting my blog, website and Instagram I had to almost instantly stop all I was doing which is why I haven’t posted anything in a while. I went in all guns blazing instead of taking it slow and steady and in 2021 I will be just doing what my intuition tells me, as and when i feel like it and not an a schedule. I’ll only write what my heart tells me to write.

I hope you had a very happy christmas and lets pray that 2021 is better than what has been the strangest year of our lives.

Find David at https://www.spiritsurvival.com or on his Instagram!

Much Love, Sean.

Necromancy for Dummies, Advice for the Beginner Medium

This post is my advice to you beginner mediums out there who are just starting to walk the spiritualist path. This is also for mediums who are bit more experienced and still struggle with some setbacks and self doubt. I am by no means an advanced medium, I have only been developing a little over a year but I have seen people in my development circle come and go, give up just before they get anywhere or didn’t believe or trust in spirit enough. I myself have had these ups and downs too, but I have persevered through the setbacks and the doubt and continued along my path. If I can do it, so can you! Because I can’t do a lot of things, like whistle… It even took me 17 years to learn how to tie my shoes… no joke.

1. Join a development circle

This is the first step to any mediumship journey, though some people are natural mediums meaning they can naturally connect to the spirit world, most people are not. A development circle is the best way to learn how to open to spirit and gives you a safe place to practice and ask questions. Everyone is in the same boat as you and they will help you along your journey. Mediumship is not a solitary path as it is the act of communication. It’s about people coming together either in the physical plane or the spiritual plane connecting with one another and sharing their stories.

Communication also includes community – this is your community. These people will lift you up, some may become lifelong friends. This is a great way to network as a lot of people in your groups will go to other groups and invite you along, before you know it you’ll know everybody who’s anybody in the mediumship world!

With the corona-virus making churches and spiritual centres temporarily closed a lot of groups have started online zoom circles. Have a look around. There are no limits on spirit, they are omnipresent so there is nothing stopping you from giving somebody a message halfway across the world.

2. It’s ok to get things wrong

When beginning your mediumistic path, you will get things wrong. You can feel so sure that you have a spirit drawing close, get up and give your description and everyone will look at you with blank faces. We’ve all been there, it happens a lot at the beginning, our conscious mind has a way of coming in a taking over especially if we doubt ourselves or second guess. I got so many things wrong at the start of my journey and still do, for every week I did a successful communication the week after I’d get everything wrong and walk home with my head down, falling into a pit of despair feeling like I wasn’t good enough or that I was the worst medium and would never be able to do it right. It will be a rollercoaster, you will have ups and downs in your journey. If you didn’t get things wrong how will you get them right the next time? Which brings me to my second point.

3. Get back up there and work!

In my development class we had a few people who never got up to work, I was always an eager beaver to get up and work even if I fell flat on my face because I wanted to be a medium so badly, that’s why I was there developing. So when I saw the people, sitting there who said no each week at having a go I thought what was the point? Your development circle is where you are meant to mess up, you’re not working with the public, you have nothing to lose or nobody to upset, there are no expectations.

Your circle is there to push you forward, to support you, I have met so many beautiful souls in my circle who I hope will be in my life for a long time. They encourage me, guide me, celebrate me. Allow yourself to be lifted up by them. The development class is your chance to have a go, if you never get up and work you will never grow. Feel the fear and the nerves and battle through it. You’re only going to get better when you try.

4. Trust in spirit

Arthur Conan Doyle pictured above.

The spirit world wants you to be the best medium you can be. They will support you every step of the way, at the end of the day you’re their only line of direct communication to their loved ones so they will invest in you as much as possible. Not only that, your loved ones in spirit are always cheering you on and helping you along the way.

A lot of people say that they don’t have a spirit link to work with when they get up but when our teacher “links in” to their energy field they always do. They just don’t trust themselves enough. Just say what you get, see or feel, you’re getting it for a reason. Doubt kills the communication; it clouds your mind and stops your ability to access the information. As my mentor always says “You don’t get owt for nowt.”. Trust that they will always be there, ready to work with you.

5. Your only as good as your last best message

I’ve heard a lot in our spiritualist community the saying that your “only as good as your last message.” And It’s never sat well with me. Sometimes we have bad days sometimes we have trouble letting go of worries or fears and stressful situations that are going on in our earthly life, when the conscious mind gets involved we can start to lose our focus and sometimes our messages can become a little bit blocky or messy.

I’ve had this happen on my first platform demonstration and it went terrible. I was so nervous with all the eyes in front of me that I was overthinking everything. I got off the platform and was in the aforementioned pit of despair at my lack of ability. But I quickly pulled myself out of it because I had given amazing messages before, with great evidence and accuracy. You will have bad days but don’t judge yourself on a few bad communications. Always remember your last best message! You have the potential and ability to give those amazing messages again, never forget that.

6. The dreaded NO is actually the best teacher

No, no, no. That word sends shudders up my spine and gives me a rock in my stomach, you see it all time, a medium going strong with a message, loads of accurate information, the client nodding (sometimes crying) and getting yes after yes and then NO. The look of a deer in headlights. NO, can be the breaking point of a reading in beginners as it introduces doubt into the mind of the medium and as I have said previously, doubt can affect the communication. But a no is actually your best teacher.

The information from spirit is always accurate. It’s our interpretation that isn’t. if the client says no, go back to the spirit world and ask why are you getting a no. They may give you more evidence to add to your message or repackage it in a way that makes more sense to the client. Embrace the No’s! No’s stop you from getting comfortable in your mediumship, they take you out your comfort zone and get you to work harder. They give you a chance to ensure your information is accurate and can be taken by the client.

This journey is one of true magic, where loved ones who are not here are just a thought away. You are embarking on a path of service to humanity and the spirit world, be honoured and stay humble.

Interested in a mediumship reading from me? Head over to my mediumship page to book your a session today.

Who Am I and Why Am I Starting a Blog?

Good question.

Hi My name is Sean, I’m an aspiring Spiritualist Medium and Tarot Reader based in Warrington, UK. I’m currently 25, My Sun sign is Aquarius with a Virgo Moon and a Scorpio ascendent and I have had paranormal experiences my whole life.

My first memory was of being pushed down the stairs by the ghost of an old lady, in a two up, two down version of the house from Amityville. Did it actually happen? Was it just an overactive imagination? Who knows, but at 2 years old I told the Doctors in Alder Hey Children’s Hospital “The lady pushed me.”. My Mum didn’t appreciate being interviewed by social services shortly after…

There has always been a mystery to life, a hidden aspect that I could never get my head around that frightened me yet pulled me in with a sense of wonder and awe. These experiences have caused me to seek out the hidden, leading me down a path of investigation into the occult. From tarot reading to developing as a psychic medium, casting spells and vision quests, I am convinced that there is a deeper layer to life.

But during all this I have always wanted to document my experiences publicly. Its my passion after all and it’s a passion that not everyone gets or understands. Our purpose on earth express ourselves, the unique things that make you, YOU. And as far as I can remember I’ve always wanted share this part of me with the world.

A picture of me at the amityville house with a spooky spectre (I was probably just moving when the picture was being taken)

For years now I have watched you-tubers and read blogs and books in the categories of mind body and spirit, longing to be a part of the conversation and the greater spiritual narrative, but I didn’t. Maybe out of a fear of looking stupid or that my thoughts, opinions and experiences weren’t good enough.

I’m philosophical in nature, I think… ALOT. There is always thoughts and ideas whirling around my head wanting to express themselves to others about the metaphysical and spiritual aspects of life, I’m a typical air sign after all (more like a typical airhead). It’s frustrating being surrounded by people who don’t get all the woo-woo stuff I love, I have bored my family and friends to death talking about my meditation yesterday or how I feel about my tarot cards or that my Mum is such an Aries. They still love me and accept my quirks but I have been longing to speak to people who know, who are also seekers and who believe there is a deeper secret to life.

I have started this blog in hopes that we can talk openly about the weird and wonderful experiences that are just on the fringe of everyday life, that you don’t feel alone in your spiritual journey and that my head doesn’t explode from all the thoughts and theories whizzing around my head at 100mph. My aim is that I can engage in some conversation and debate about the mystical aspects of life.

So join me for some tarot readings, deck reviews, ghost stories and all things esoteric and occult!